Today was the first day when we were just in our “normal” routine… wash diapers, change diapers, start laundry, fold laundry, wash dishes, make a breakfast make a lunch make a dinner, free some extras, nursing nursing nursing, more nursing, change more diapers, efficientize the house, feed rabbit, wash things, sweep things… and so pleased to do it (Keep in mind, with my consortium of illnesses, this requires some strategic pacing).
The first two weeks of his little life involved being born amongst all the precautions/restrictions/oddities a pandemic life, followed by the passing of his great grandmother and four days of Buddhist funeral rites at the house, then a natural disaster in Japan (hit the southern island of Kyushu hard – 60+ dead – we were just deluged with rain and concern) / I think that is a bingo.
As he rests in his deluxe “boat” made by his remarkable mother in the last days of pregnancy, safe and calm and amused, I’m thinking about all the other mothers going through pregnant life during these recent odd months. (Of course) safety is paramount though I think about so many of the *ancillary rituals* and added stresses which impacted their experience.
I.e.: Not having support and kinship of sisters and mothers and friends, not doing the “out and about” shopping, not having parenting classes (ours were canceled after a few weeks), not having showers/parties/reunions, and hearing *so many* opinions about “what to do/how to be careful“ – all of this adds a little bit a little bit a little bit.
Also thinking of single mothers doing this alone or under challenging domestic situations with minimal/no support or family around. Mothers you are champions. #respect
(Usually I would tag various names of mamas I’ve watched go through this process this last months, or starting down this journey but with the “great social diaspora of 2020” this is a futile effort to wrangle all over the TwFaceSpaceGramTube …. so, please know that I am thinking of you, all you mothers of the recently born, the young ones and soon to come ones.